Why you need to be in your photos to remember this stage of your child’s life
As a parent, it’s tempting to photograph every single thing about your child—and I don’t blame you! You’re so in love with that little person! You just want to remember the crooked smile your son gives you when he’s been mischievous. Or your daughter’s freaking cute dances with her stuffie. Oh, and what about those big blue eyes with dreamy eyelashes?
Those are all important to photograph, but how often are you in your photos? I’m not talking about arm’s length selfies or portraits here… I’m talking about candid photos of authentic moments where you’re not looking at the camera. Photos that show you interacting with your loved ones.
I’m sure there are many reasons why you’re not:
- You’re the one taking photos
- No one offers to take photos of you
- You’re not comfortable with your self-image
- You feel awkward in front of the camera
- You don’t like to have your photo taken
- You don’t like what you look like in photos
Recognize yourself in one or more of those?
No matter what your excuse is, you need to be in your photos to remember this stage of your child’s life!
Why do you need to be in your photos to remember this stage of your child’s life?
Because your child’s life involves you and you’re the most important person in her entire universe! If you want to remember how your child behaves around you, you need photos of actions, reactions, and interactions. Actions and reactions can be performed by a single person, but interactions involve more than one. Let’s say you want to remember how your toddler runs away from your husband with the uttermost excitement when he chases her around the house, and how she runs to you for protection. If you only photograph your child running, will you remember it all? Will that bring back the feelings of the moment? Probably not! You need to see the entire scene, the people involved, and the way you react and interact with each other.
QUICK TIP: Your face or body don’t always need to be in the photo for the viewer to understand what’s going on. A body part, your shadow or your reflection can all suggest your presence.
Because seeing your face when you interact with your child reveals something about you and the way you feel. If you like or dislike something your child does, it will be visible in your facial expression. And seeing your child’s face reveals his feelings. So both of you should be photographed!
Because the human brain can only recall events that occurred after the age of 3 or 4. And how much of that do you remember? Your kids will thank you for taking photos that show how you cared for them and interacted with each other. They will learn a lot about their daily life at home, the activities you did together, your personality. They will see who you were as a parent and everything you did for them.
These photos can actually be useful to them in the future, when they have children of their own. They might ask you for advice on how you did certain things when they were little. Chances are you won’t remember. I already have problems remembering what happened 2 years ago… No wonder my mom couldn’t give me much parenting advice when my babies were newborn!
You see? You need to be in your photos to remember this stage of your child’s life, and for your child to remember!
The Time-Stopper Guide
The Time-Stopper Guide can help you photograph what may seem mundane right now, but will be precious down the road. Just remember that everyday moments reveal a lot about each person and about your family dynamics.
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I'm Marie-Pierre, an easygoing mother of two and a documentary family photographer. I believe we can all learn and grow from other people's experiences. Real life stories help us relate to each other, open our minds and feel better about ourselves.
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